Lately mine has been red wine at night and coffee in the morning. The cause has been more stress than I can handle. My friend Tim told me a saying; he said “Coffee is that little buddy that is your personal cheerleader in the morning that says, ‘Come on buddy, you got this! You can do it!’ and wine is that other little buddy that puts his arm around you at the end of the day and says ‘Don’t worry about it, you’ll get em next time.'”


An interesting study was done that says a lot about addiction. Experts used cocaine and rodents.  They put a rodent by itself in a cage with water on one side of the cage and cocaine on the other side. The lonely rodent would frequent the cocaine regularly. They took the lonely rodent out of this environment and put it in a cage with a bunch of other rodents.


Again, there was cocaine on one side and water on the other. The rodent that had been addicted to cocaine quickly got away from going for the cocaine and the other rodents tried the cocaine but then went back to plain water. Eventually, none of the rodents were going to the cocaine. The experts concluded that loneliness was a huge contributor to addiction.


I get reminded of when we were children and everything was the greatest or we were crying about something. We had very extreme emotions constantly and no addictions available to us. We had to just suffer through the bad times. I have always believed that children just need the love of their parents to be successful.


Then we get older and learn about drugs, alcohol, and other addictions like gambling, work, food, sex, or any number of things we can find our escape in. We do whatever it takes to numb pain and in this process we isolate ourselves and numb even the good emotions.


There was a movie with Penelope Cruz in it; I think it might have been Vanilla Sky. It mentions in the movie that you can’t have the good without the bad. You can’t feel great if you never feel bad. I believe this is true. Going on vacation for an extended period will prove this. Your feel-good neurotransmitters keep getting emitted and after a while they slow down and your vacation just becomes normal daily living until you get back and feel some post trip depression. You really can’t have the good without the bad.


When we are adults it takes more extreme things to pick us up or bring us down so when the bad hits it’s really bad and it’s easy to grab for something to numb our feelings. It’s a cop out. We need to embrace our lows because without them we can never get our highs. We need to stick together during these high stress times because we tend to isolate ourselves during the hard times. Embrace it. Try not to isolate yourself and look for those that are closest to you. They might not be the one you want to be with; like in the case of a break up, but they will be the one to be there for you when they are needed. For me personally a few chats with my sisters and parents has done me wonders.


Dr. Brenee Brown has one of my favorite Ted Talks. She is a famous psychologist that talks about the power of vulnerability. She says vulnerability is uncomfortable but it’s necessary to avoid loneliness. She mentions in her talk that we use all kinds of means to attain affection including plastic surgery. She mentions we use addictions to numb pain and talks about how it doesn’t just numb pain but all emotions. Like in the movie “Click” where Adam Sandler plays a character that fast forwards through the parts of his life he doesn’t like and ends up getting old fast never really living.


Dr. Brenee Brown mentions that vulnerability is necessary and that the difference between those that embraced vulnerability and those that avoided it was the ones that embraced it believed that they were worthy. This is where I believe the love of parents comes in.  This is also where I believe building your own confidence comes. I believe nutrition and fitness is a huge part of health and happiness and that’s why it’s one of my core values. If you ever want help with your health, happiness, and fitness; please drop me a line. I am more than happy to help out when I can.


If you have an addiction, take steps toward dealing with the root cause. It might be stress or pain. A lot of times it’s easiest to kick the addiction by replacing it with another healthier addiction. I’m talking about diet and exercise of course. People will get very addicted to working out and people that are posting and talking lots about their diet and exercise should be praised because they could be using drugs instead. We have all heard someone talking about how they found CrossFit or God. Allow them the opportunity to talk. These are addictions that are much better than cocaine and hookers.


I hope you liked the article. If you did, share it with friends. These are the types of issues I deal with daily with my clients in order to accomplish their fitness goals. I believe in a coach like approach and I help guide my clients to do the things they deem relevant for them and they are seeing really great results. For me the reward is the happiness it creates and seeing the new found confidence in people. WOULD YOU LIKE ME TO PERSONALLY SHOW YOU HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOUR FITNESS GOALS …FOR FREE?



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